She didn't tell me then, but she'd heard the "I love eating pussy" line before, and she had never really had great oral. Some guys were better than others, but none could really bring her to orgasm.
I went on to tell her that some submissives told me that they felt having a guy give oral was a submissive act. I disagree. I feel like it's one way to control the pleasure. It was part of my sexual artistry; I could tell through her body language and changes in breathing whether what I was doing was going to make her cum.
On the night we met, after we made out and I spanked her, I took her clothes off, pulled her on top of me, got her to straddle my face, grabbed her by the nipples, and said, "Do you feel like you're in control right now?"
She gasped as I sucked her clit into my mouth. I didn't keep track of the orgasms. I would smack her ass now and then. I edged her a few times to make the orgasms more intense. Made her squirt.
But as fun as this was for her, as we explored things that were new for her, she found more things that she enjoyed better than oral. Asphyxiation play, giving me head while I pushed her down on my cock, violent sex (slapping her head, grabbing her by the hair, fucking her savagely, smacking her tits while we're fucking), punching her pussy/pussy torture...if we did a list, oral wouldn't be in the top ten of the things I do with her.
And she says that I am by far the best at oral of anyone she's ever been with. I love doing it from time to time. I love when she straddles my face and lays over me. The view of her shapely ass with her pussy right in my face is intoxicating, and I can beat her ass with my open hands while I eat her out.
Anyway, she suggested that I tell people about technique, because while there were some guys she was with who gave some pleasure, most guys were simply bad at it. So here are some suggestions
First, Sam Kinison was a comedian. I can't believe people are still taking his advice. Maybe they don't know the advice came from him. At any rate, licking the alphabet is not the answer. It might feel kind of good as long as you are able to find the clit (which isn't rocket science, guys!), but it's really not a technique. It's a joke. It was meant to be funny, not sage advice. Stop doing that.
Second, and more importantly, if you don't know where the clit is, it's about time you found out. This is useful information for fingering, too, and again, it's not that damned difficult. You will find her vaginal opening at the bottom of her vulva. If you spread her apart and follow her pussy up, you will find the clit at the top. If she's turned on, it will swell, and it will be easier to find (in most cases. There are some exceptions, where the clit doesn't really stick out). That's where you want to flick your tongue. You aren't painting a fence here. Put pressure on the clit with your tongue. Flick it from side to side, up and down, lick around it, but always put pressure on it.
Third...you know how you like your dick sucked, guys? Women love having the same thing done to their clits. Suck that clit in and work it up and down with your lips and flick it with your tongue at the same time. Now, my toy likes some biting and other things that hurt. That's not what every women wants. You have to pay attention to her breathing and her body language, and, of course, her safe word. If she withdraws consent, you stop. You can ask her what is wrong, but don't be a dick. Be genuinely curious and learn what she wants and what she doesn't.
Third...you know how you like your dick sucked, guys? Women love having the same thing done to their clits. Suck that clit in and work it up and down with your lips and flick it with your tongue at the same time. Now, my toy likes some biting and other things that hurt. That's not what every women wants. You have to pay attention to her breathing and her body language, and, of course, her safe word. If she withdraws consent, you stop. You can ask her what is wrong, but don't be a dick. Be genuinely curious and learn what she wants and what she doesn't.
I have been with vanilla women and ones who were kinky as fuck, and I have always been good at oral. I have never failed to make a woman orgasm from it. They are all somewhat different, but if you put pressure on the clit when you flick it with your tongue and suck on that clit, you will get her to cum.
Now with my toy in particular, I like to drape her clit over my bottom row of teeth and flick my tongue over her clit, nibble it some, bite it sometimes. I will tease her, biting her pussy and her thighs, then going back to her clit. I like to build her up, edge her, make the orgasm as intense as possible. Then, when she cums, I keep going and drive her wild. I will make her orgasm till she uses her safe word.
I'll give you two more bits of advice here
1. When you finger her, make sure you get her wet with some dirty talk and exploring erogenous zones, or if she's like my toy and a masochist, some pleasurable pain. Then, slide your finger into that wetness before you draw it out and use her own juices as lubricant. Don't start dry. A lubricated clit is a happy clit.
2. Find her g-spot. Slide your finger inside of her, then use your finger in a beckoning gesture on the front wall of her vagina. It feels like a tiny bump, but you'll know when you find it. She'll definitely let you know with her body language and her breathings, and most likely moaning or gasping. It feels different then rubbing her clit, and the orgasm is more intense from the g-spot.
